This Pushed Me Over The Edge

Mar 8, 2012

Have you determined you’re tired of living for “someday” and want to start enjoying your life now? Have you realized that time is too limited to wait for things that our society tells us are out of reach until we have given the best years of our lives to fulfilling someone else’s dream? I have!
 
Don’t get me wrong, I live a very happy, fulfilling life right now, every day, however…..I still catch myself saying,

One day, when I retire, I’m going to travel and go to South America and sky dive, etc., etc., etc.”

WRONG!
 

No more. After the last several blog posts, I’ve asked you to think about your “someday”, write it down, figure out what you’re waiting on and what’s holding you back and then ask yourself again if you’re really serious. If you are, then let’s do it.
 
Here we go.
 

To illustrate how, I’m going to have to give you an example, and the best one I know of to give is my own.

 
My “someday” is to buy an RV, take my dog and go.

Kristin Boster grand canyon travel

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Go where? Who knows? Everywhere. For how long? Don’t know that either. Maybe a month, maybe a year, maybe forever. Do I need a house to come home to? I don’t think so, but my kids think differently on that one, so the jury’s still out there.
 
And the tough part about this plan, is I don’t want to have to worry about money. I don’t want a lot of things, so being “rich” is not a priority. However, gasoline is not cheap and I expect to use a lot of it. AND, I want to work when I want to and where I want to. No more commuting an hour and a half to a cubicle, getting paid by the hour.
 
I still want to work, because for me it’s important to be productive and contribute to a better society in some way shape or form. And I think I have something to offer in that aspect, as most people do. But I want to be able to do it on my own terms. In a nutshell, that’s my dream life.
 

What has held me back so far?
 

Two things: family and money.
 

Family first. I’ve never really lived far from my parents and my siblings and I’m a divorced mom with two teenage kids. My parents were in good health until this last summer when my mom passed away a bit unexpectedly. I didn’t want to start traveling and be unavailable to help them or to enjoy them.
My kids, also, don’t share my dream. Like most teenagers, they’ve established roots in our sleepy little town and want to graduate high school with the kids they’ve known forever. So, for family reasons alone, I’ve put off my “someday” until they both graduate.
 

My second hurdle is money.
 

kristinboster.com cash

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I am lucky enough to make a good income as a self-employed computer consultant and can provide a comfortable living, but in no way have a healthy savings. And even though most of the work I do is web-based development, I still physically travel to my client’s place of work (a state agency) and work eight hours a day, five days a week (your typical 9 to 5). If I were to pick up and leave town, obviously I would have no source of income. Woops. That’s a problem.
 

So, like many of you, I begrudgingly planned to continue this routine, pay on the mortgage, the truck, see the kids through school and try to squirrel away enough money for retirement at the same time. Even with this plan, though, my timeline was pretty ambitious by most standards. At least I had a plan.
 

Well, sort of. I am 44 and had a goal to start my “someday” within five years, which would make it 2017. I figured within five years I could have a decent amount of money saved and invested, my kids would be out of school, and as for income…I’d figure something out.
 

That was the plan. No real detail, no steps, no outline. So really, it was just a vague idea, pie in the sky kind of hope.

 

And I can’t be too hard on myself, but it just having the dream was not going to make it a reality.
 

So what has changed?
 

A couple of things.



4-Day WorkWeek


 

As I mentioned in a previous post, my house was hit by a tornado. Within 3 minutes, I had no place to stay and my family narrowly escaped death. Talk about a wake-up call. Three months later, my mom passed away. Wake–up call number two. Moral of the story, enjoy today. Right now. This minute. Not tomorrow.
 

Then, as I also blogged about in that earlier post, I read Tim Ferriss’s book, “The 4-Hour Work Week.” This guy seemed to be reading my mind. (To see more about how this changed my life, go hereto read my earlier post.)
 

End result, my “someday” starts today. I have started this blog to share the experience with you. If you are considering the same type of thing, do it with me! Learn from my mistakes, let me hear about yours. I don’t have all of the answers, but I don’t care! I know what I want and I’m am taking steps every day to get there. No more talking and planning, just doing.
 

What exactly have I done?

 

Number one, I’ve started this blog.
 

Not only will this record what my steps and progress, it will also act as a guide for you or anyone else who may need a little push to get started or some re-assurance to keep going. Writing every day keeps me focused and motivated. It also shows me that I’m “getting there”, not just watching time pass by waiting for the right moment.
 

Number two, I’ve started to downsize.
 

When I do buy the RV and hit the road, what will I do with all my junk? Sure can’t take it with me, and why would I want to? Who needs it? I’ve got to admit, this step was made quite a bit easier for me because of the tornado. The quickest way to clean house is to have it blown away! LOL.
 

Number three, I’ve figured out my plan for income on the road.
 

passive income internet marketing

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This is the one where I promised in an earlier post to expand on later and because it’s so involved, I’m going to have to stick with that approach. But, in a nut shell, I have started an internet marketing business, a profession that can be done anywhere as long as you have an internet connection.
 

Stay tuned for more info on this, as I plan to devote an entire section of this site to what I’m doing and how you can do the same if you’re interested.
 

This step is also consuming the majority of my time, as it is not a get rich quick scheme and takes a lot of hard, steady work and because I’m new to it, a lot of research. By the time my youngest graduates from high school in 2015, this business will be generating enough passive income to fund my lifestyle and will be established to the point that I will be able to do it from anywhere.

Just like that, all major hurdles have been addressed. There are details remaining, but I have a plan and the important thing is I am doing something every day to make that plan a reality. Every day is a part of that plan. This internet marketing business is amazing and I’ve already learned so much and met some fantastic people.
 

As I said earlier in my post about the tornado, this is what is important to me: the relationships built with friends and family, not the material things I own or the position that I hold.
 

Now you’ve heard my story, what’s yours?

 

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    June 14th, 2013 at 9:51 am #

    What’s up, just wanted to mention, I liked this article. It was funny. Keep on posting!

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