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We talked in the last week about what you would do with your life if you had absolutely no barriers. If you’ve followed along, you not only thought about it, you wrote it down. Then you identified what has been holding you back from living your dream. After all, we only get one chance, right?
 
It’s not like our time here on earth is infinite, sadly it will come to an end.

 
So now that you know what you want to do, and why you haven’t done it, my next question is…..are you serious? If you could really get to that perfect every day life that you have imagined, would you do it? Or is it easier to stay in your routine, follow the social norms or maybe even just complain about why you can’t?

If you really want to live your life with no regrets, loving every minute, taking control of your own destiny, you can. However, (you knew there’d be a but, right?), I’m not going to tell you it will be easy at first or that people will not laugh at you and call you crazy. Probably just the opposite. They will question your sanity. You may question your sanity. But always remind yourself of the end result you are going to achieve. How? You’ve written it down, remember? You’ve pictured it in your head, not just vaguely, but in detail, down to the minute.

When you revisit your defined dream life, ask yourself again. Is this what I want.

If it is, stick with it!

  

No one will make it happen, no one will care if it happens if you don’t! If you find yourself studying your dream life and you realize it’s not really what you want after all, that’s ok. That’s normal! Change it. It’s your life. It’s not a test with some strict teacher walking around waiting to slap your hands when you don’t know the answer. Nobody has all the answers, but you come the closest to having the answers for yourself.

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Does that mean disregard other people, rules of society and caring for others? Of course not. A lot of people confuse taking charge of your life and being selfish as the same thing. They are absolutely not the same. How can you expect to improve the world and those around you without improving yourself first? You can’t. The easiest way to make the people who love you happy is to let them see you succeed. Let them look to you as an inspiration and a refuge of things that can go right.

If you are committed, if you know what you want, and you are ready, lets go get it. Your dream starts today.

Did you define your dream life? Did you really think about what you would do with yourself if you had no obstacles? Did you write it down?
 
If so, you are probably saying, “Ok, so now what? This is never going to be possible.”
 

Whatever your dream life involves, you must believe that it CAN happen.

One thing is certain, if you don’t believe it is possible, you are right. It is not.

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What is holding you back from your ideal life?


 
The second step to achieving your dream is identifying the obstacles. Without a doubt, the most common reason cited for not living your dream is money: more accurately, the lack of it. Is this one of your obstacles? I know it was for me.
  But don’t give up.
 
We will discuss multiple ways to attack and overcome this obstacle. It can be done, and it doesn’t involve going to jail! However, it is such gong to be a topic covered in and of itself in a future post, so for now, let’s identify remaining obstacles.
 
Is timing an issue? Sometimes we think, “Well, next month or next year, I’ll be in a better position to make a change.” Really? Why? What will be different from now? Have you ever heard new parents say, “We weren’t ready for a child, but we didn’t have much choice and it has worked out fine.” People have a way of dealing with situations when there is no other choice.
 
If you wait for the “ideal” situation to take action, it will never come.
 
In my personal case, for example, I want to travel. My kids, however, are in their final years of high school and do not share my desire. That’s ok. I have simply planned to start my dream life as soon as my youngest graduates. And there is a mountain of things I am doing now to prepare for that day! If time or an event is an obstacle for you, write it down. What can you be doing now, today?

 What else is holding you back? Remember, there are no right or wrong answers her, but you MUST be honest with yourself.
 
Dig deep. Most of the time, you will find what’s holding you back from your perfect life is…you.

Sound accurate?