Have you determined you’re tired of living for “someday” and want to start enjoying your life now? Have you realized that time is too limited to wait for things that our society tells us are out of reach until we have given the best years of our lives to fulfilling someone else’s dream? I have!
 
Don’t get me wrong, I live a very happy, fulfilling life right now, every day, however…..I still catch myself saying,

One day, when I retire, I’m going to travel and go to South America and sky dive, etc., etc., etc.”

WRONG!
 

No more. After the last several blog posts, I’ve asked you to think about your “someday”, write it down, figure out what you’re waiting on and what’s holding you back and then ask yourself again if you’re really serious. If you are, then let’s do it.
 
Here we go.
 

To illustrate how, I’m going to have to give you an example, and the best one I know of to give is my own.

 
My “someday” is to buy an RV, take my dog and go.

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Go where? Who knows? Everywhere. For how long? Don’t know that either. Maybe a month, maybe a year, maybe forever. Do I need a house to come home to? I don’t think so, but my kids think differently on that one, so the jury’s still out there.
 
And the tough part about this plan, is I don’t want to have to worry about money. I don’t want a lot of things, so being “rich” is not a priority. However, gasoline is not cheap and I expect to use a lot of it. AND, I want to work when I want to and where I want to. No more commuting an hour and a half to a cubicle, getting paid by the hour.
 
I still want to work, because for me it’s important to be productive and contribute to a better society in some way shape or form. And I think I have something to offer in that aspect, as most people do. But I want to be able to do it on my own terms. In a nutshell, that’s my dream life.
 

What has held me back so far?
 

Two things: family and money.
 

Family first. I’ve never really lived far from my parents and my siblings and I’m a divorced mom with two teenage kids. My parents were in good health until this last summer when my mom passed away a bit unexpectedly. I didn’t want to start traveling and be unavailable to help them or to enjoy them.
My kids, also, don’t share my dream. Like most teenagers, they’ve established roots in our sleepy little town and want to graduate high school with the kids they’ve known forever. So, for family reasons alone, I’ve put off my “someday” until they both graduate.
 

My second hurdle is money.
 

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I am lucky enough to make a good income as a self-employed computer consultant and can provide a comfortable living, but in no way have a healthy savings. And even though most of the work I do is web-based development, I still physically travel to my client’s place of work (a state agency) and work eight hours a day, five days a week (your typical 9 to 5). If I were to pick up and leave town, obviously I would have no source of income. Woops. That’s a problem.
 

So, like many of you, I begrudgingly planned to continue this routine, pay on the mortgage, the truck, see the kids through school and try to squirrel away enough money for retirement at the same time. Even with this plan, though, my timeline was pretty ambitious by most standards. At least I had a plan.
 

Well, sort of. I am 44 and had a goal to start my “someday” within five years, which would make it 2017. I figured within five years I could have a decent amount of money saved and invested, my kids would be out of school, and as for income…I’d figure something out.
 

That was the plan. No real detail, no steps, no outline. So really, it was just a vague idea, pie in the sky kind of hope.

 

And I can’t be too hard on myself, but it just having the dream was not going to make it a reality.
 

So what has changed?
 

A couple of things.



4-Day WorkWeek


 

As I mentioned in a previous post, my house was hit by a tornado. Within 3 minutes, I had no place to stay and my family narrowly escaped death. Talk about a wake-up call. Three months later, my mom passed away. Wake–up call number two. Moral of the story, enjoy today. Right now. This minute. Not tomorrow.
 

Then, as I also blogged about in that earlier post, I read Tim Ferriss’s book, “The 4-Hour Work Week.” This guy seemed to be reading my mind. (To see more about how this changed my life, go hereto read my earlier post.)
 

End result, my “someday” starts today. I have started this blog to share the experience with you. If you are considering the same type of thing, do it with me! Learn from my mistakes, let me hear about yours. I don’t have all of the answers, but I don’t care! I know what I want and I’m am taking steps every day to get there. No more talking and planning, just doing.
 

What exactly have I done?

 

Number one, I’ve started this blog.
 

Not only will this record what my steps and progress, it will also act as a guide for you or anyone else who may need a little push to get started or some re-assurance to keep going. Writing every day keeps me focused and motivated. It also shows me that I’m “getting there”, not just watching time pass by waiting for the right moment.
 

Number two, I’ve started to downsize.
 

When I do buy the RV and hit the road, what will I do with all my junk? Sure can’t take it with me, and why would I want to? Who needs it? I’ve got to admit, this step was made quite a bit easier for me because of the tornado. The quickest way to clean house is to have it blown away! LOL.
 

Number three, I’ve figured out my plan for income on the road.
 

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This is the one where I promised in an earlier post to expand on later and because it’s so involved, I’m going to have to stick with that approach. But, in a nut shell, I have started an internet marketing business, a profession that can be done anywhere as long as you have an internet connection.
 

Stay tuned for more info on this, as I plan to devote an entire section of this site to what I’m doing and how you can do the same if you’re interested.
 

This step is also consuming the majority of my time, as it is not a get rich quick scheme and takes a lot of hard, steady work and because I’m new to it, a lot of research. By the time my youngest graduates from high school in 2015, this business will be generating enough passive income to fund my lifestyle and will be established to the point that I will be able to do it from anywhere.

Just like that, all major hurdles have been addressed. There are details remaining, but I have a plan and the important thing is I am doing something every day to make that plan a reality. Every day is a part of that plan. This internet marketing business is amazing and I’ve already learned so much and met some fantastic people.
 

As I said earlier in my post about the tornado, this is what is important to me: the relationships built with friends and family, not the material things I own or the position that I hold.
 

Now you’ve heard my story, what’s yours?

 

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We talked in the last week about what you would do with your life if you had absolutely no barriers. If you’ve followed along, you not only thought about it, you wrote it down. Then you identified what has been holding you back from living your dream. After all, we only get one chance, right?
 
It’s not like our time here on earth is infinite, sadly it will come to an end.

 
So now that you know what you want to do, and why you haven’t done it, my next question is…..are you serious? If you could really get to that perfect every day life that you have imagined, would you do it? Or is it easier to stay in your routine, follow the social norms or maybe even just complain about why you can’t?

If you really want to live your life with no regrets, loving every minute, taking control of your own destiny, you can. However, (you knew there’d be a but, right?), I’m not going to tell you it will be easy at first or that people will not laugh at you and call you crazy. Probably just the opposite. They will question your sanity. You may question your sanity. But always remind yourself of the end result you are going to achieve. How? You’ve written it down, remember? You’ve pictured it in your head, not just vaguely, but in detail, down to the minute.

When you revisit your defined dream life, ask yourself again. Is this what I want.

If it is, stick with it!

  

No one will make it happen, no one will care if it happens if you don’t! If you find yourself studying your dream life and you realize it’s not really what you want after all, that’s ok. That’s normal! Change it. It’s your life. It’s not a test with some strict teacher walking around waiting to slap your hands when you don’t know the answer. Nobody has all the answers, but you come the closest to having the answers for yourself.

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Does that mean disregard other people, rules of society and caring for others? Of course not. A lot of people confuse taking charge of your life and being selfish as the same thing. They are absolutely not the same. How can you expect to improve the world and those around you without improving yourself first? You can’t. The easiest way to make the people who love you happy is to let them see you succeed. Let them look to you as an inspiration and a refuge of things that can go right.

If you are committed, if you know what you want, and you are ready, lets go get it. Your dream starts today.

If you never had to worry about income again, what would you do?

For just a second, think about that question.  You have an unlimited supply of wealth.  What will you do tomorrow?  What about the next day?  Next week?

 

For many of us, it’s easy to rattle off one or two things, briefly fantasize and then brush off the idea.  That’s where I want you to STOP.  Pretend for a minute that it is a reality.

 

For the rest of your life, you can do whatever you want.   Absolutely anything, within the boundaries of the law and your conscious, of course.

 

If you give this some serious thought, you may find it’s not that easy to define.

 

For example, my first reaction is, “That’s easy. I’d travel.”  But travel where, specifically?  For how long?  With who?  What would I do on these trips?
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Caribbean, here I come!

 

Would you sell your house?  Would you work?  Would you buy things?  Would you devote your time to a “greater cause”?  There is no right or wrong answer but there must be an answer.  Why?

 

Most of us have been conditioned NOT to dream.

 

When we were young, not only would this have been an easy question to answer, but probably one that we would have considered stupid.  Why wouldn’t you do whatever you wanted to do when you grew up?
But as we grow older and are told by others that we can’t have it all, we begin to accept it as fact.  Our failures and shortcomings are seen as validation that life is a series of compromises, and the biggest compromise of all is that your dreams and wishful thoughts are simply not possible.

 

Your life is YOUR choice.

 

If you really believe that you cannot live your dream life, YOU are limiting YOURSELF.  You CAN have it all.  I will tell you how.

 

Step #1 – define  your ideal lifestyle

 

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Define your dream.

 

This is the hard part.  Before you can take a single step into making your ideal life a reality, you have to define it.  That means more than a passing thought.  Really think about it, and then WRITE IT DOWN.    Be detailed, and include a timeline.    What does the first day of your new life look like ?  What about three months later?   And finally a year later?  DEFINE IT.

 

If you are serious and really want to live the life you’ve always wanted, you must take the first step.  Not later, now.  Later becomes tomorrow, which becomes next year, which becomes never.  If you don’t take the first step, right now, you don’t really want to change, you just want to whine.

 

Your choice.  What will it be?  Let us know your progress by commenting below!

Do you like your job?  Or do you dream about winning the lottery and doing something else?

 

As far as jobs go, I actually really like mine.  However, I want to see the world and I don’t want to wait.  I want to hike, explore, have adventures and do all of this while I’m still healthy enough to enjoy it.

Problem is, traveling the world doesn’t exactly pay the bills and I think my colleagues would notice if I just stopped showing up one day.
 



4-Day WorkWeek

Occassionally I’ll pick up a self-help, inspirational type of book to try to freshen my engines and re-focus.  I happened across a best-seller called The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich (Expanded and Updated), by Timothy Ferriss.

 

Now, I admit.  I read the title and thought, “that sounds entertaining” and really didn’t expect it to be something that would contain any real substance. I read a sample chapter, and decided to buy.

 

Once I started, I could not put it down! Most of the time I feel these types of books are filled with hypothetical, rather common-sense types of advice that may give you one or two things to make you go “humm”, but not much else. This one, though, changed my life.

 

Mr. Ferriss articulated in the very first chapter something that I’ve been thinking for a long time. Most of us have our priorities all wrong. We give the best years of our life to a job or way of life hoping that it will be enough to sustain us for a “someday”, when we retire. The thought is, if you work hard now and sacrifice, you can enjoy yourself later without worry, when you’re old.

 

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We survived the Girard Tornado

I’ll tell you what.  My house was destroyed in less than a minute this year by a tornado. My mother passed away two months later. Living in a camper, with no way to cook a meal, a refrigerator just big enough for the basics, no internet,no TV and really just the bare minimum of possessions, I found myself re-evaulating the age old question of “Why are we all here?”

 

Do you know what I figured out? It’s not to earn the most money, or drive the fanciest car, or have the biggest house on the block. It’s about building relationships, and that’s all. Relationships with your friends, your family your god, and with complete strangers. Everything else can disappear instantly, but how you lived your life with those around you will remain long after you are gone.

 

I’ve always wanted to travel, to go out west and hike the national parks. I want to see every state, including Alaska and then start going to other countries. If I wait until retirement age to do this, will I be able to hike? Am I going to be in tip-top shape to raft the Grand Canyon? I don’t think so.

 

So why am I waiting? Oh yah, it’s that little thing called reality. I don’t think people are going to feed me on my good looks and gasoline doesn’t just fall from the sky. How am I going to pay for all of this? This is where most people give up.

 

The 4-Hour Workweek made me realize it’s all about choices. If you really want something, you have to make it happen. You have to make a plan and take action.

That’s why I am starting this blog. I am going to document to you and anyone else who wants to make a life changing decision, my journey, including failures and successes from start to finish. In the upcoming days, I will explain what my decision is and how I am going to achieve it.

 

I don’t expect my dreams and plans to be the same as yours. In fact, they may be completely different. But one thing we all have in common is that if you have a dream, you have to take action to make it happen.

 

Think I’m crazy? Maybe I am, but it’s going to be fun. In the mean time, if you get a chance, pick up a copy of Tim Ferriss’s book and let me know what you think.